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"Your failures are not failures, they are your lessons"

Greetings and Good Morning Everyone,

I hope all is well. I had a thought as I was listening to a "The Karen Hunter Show" on SiriusXM, on Wednesday, 4/29/2020. At the time, she was interviewing a doctor by the name of Dr. Arabia Mollette. Dr. Mollette had an interesting story of her journey to becoming a doctor, but it was in that discussion where they touched on a "failures" where I grabbed a nugget about failures being your lessons. This week, I wanted to take a moment to reflect and discuss this in more detail.

How many times have you "failed" at a task? Did you give up and give in? If you're strong, the answer to that question is likely a definitive, "no!" However, if you're more sensitive, you may have possibly taken those failures to heart. That brittleness later turns into self pity and the "blame game." No one walks around wanting to feel sorry for themselves because, they've failed at something, but sometimes it just happens over time. It's a self-preservation mechanism, but it's not healthy. We all have to experience failure to know how to succeed. Some people, however, slip onto a slippery slope of self pity. How you handle your failures shows your growth and strength to persevere to come back from it and succeed! I've become a stronger and more focused person because of my setbacks. One thing that I can affirm is that they didn't break me! Sure, I felt some heartache and pain as I cycled through those seasons, but I learned valuable lessons from those moments in my life. I'm not someone that needed to make a lot of mistakes to learn a particular lesson in life. I've learned from watching others go through their failures, and used their setbacks as a way to learn from afar! I've maybe had one or two setbacks in my own life, but with that said, they weren't major failures. A few blog posts back, I spoke about lifelong learning, and apart of the lifelong learning journey, is dealing with your failures in a healthy and manageable way! So, what do you feel like you've failed at? Do you want to try again? Understanding why we've failed is important. You see, sometimes the reason why we fail at something is, because of lack of preparation. Sometimes it's because, our hearts really wasn't in it. Or, maybe it's because we need time. When you step back and assess your failure(s), can you see where you went wrong? Were you able to tell where you could make improvements? The next time you fail at a task don't get upset. Don't see it as a failure. Envision it as an obstacle to overcome! If you are are defined by your failures then you shouldn't expect to go far, but if you learn from your failures, then expect to see how far you can go when you soar!

In conclusion, in life you have to determine how you're going to face your failures. When you have them, don't become discouraged, and don't beat yourself up! It happens to the best of us. Pull yourself together, and take every single lesson learned from your failure(s), and turn them into your wins! You can do this! Can't stop, won't stop! Go out into the world and succeed! You've got this!

Peace and Blessings,


Charmyra E. Fleming is a romance author with a deep desire to M.OTIVATE | A.SPIRE | I.NSPIRE, her readers and beyond to live their lives with purpose, intention, and full of passion. She is the author of The Violet Rose and Three's a Charm romance novels. Thank you for reading her blog post this morning. Hey, do her a favor, if you like or love this post, comment on it. She'd love to hear your feedback. Also, please feel free to share it with your family and friends in the social media universe. Your support is greatly appreciated!

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