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3 Forces That Can Negatively Affect Your Inner Loyalty!

Greetings and Good Monday Morning!

I hope that you're off to a great start! Feeling motivated and inspired to take on the day. This morning, I won't take up too much of your time, but I wanted to "chit chat" about a concept that I think, as individuals overlook often in our lives. Now, you may be wondering to yourself, "What the heck is she talking about? We discuss everything?", and it's true we discuss a lot of things but we don't discuss this enough. Right now, you're also probably thinking, "ok well, what is it then?" I'm talking about "loyalty"! Now, before you go off on me, and say, "girl, oh my gosh, yes we do discuss this, get another topic!" If you're chuckling right now, thank you, because, you know that I'm telling the "truff" (excuse me, but this is slang for "truth"). Just a little humor, I had to say it this way because, I want you to feel where I'm coming from. You're right! We do, discuss loyalty, but do we discuss loyalty as it relates to ourselves. What do mean and what am I trying to say? Our personal loyalty, or inner loyalty the commitment that we've made to our individual selves in whatever capacity it may be, to show up; be present; and always reliable our own desires in life. So now that I have your attention, let me break it down for you. Ready to dive in, ok, let's go!

When I began to think about this topic, I thought about how inner loyalty, self-loyalty or personal loyalty (all used interchangeably) has been a factor for me in my life. Then, I compared it to how I see it manifested in the people I know and love; as well as, those that I observe from afar. When I did that, three main ideas emerged for me as to how the inner loyalty is affected by certain forces, and they were as follows: Staying True to Oneself, Self Sabotage, Support From Others.

Staying True to Oneself

Staying True to Oneself is something that has been promoted and encouraged almost daily, but it is an important element to keeping your inner loyalty in tact. Also, part of remaining true to yourself is the belief in oneself, and the authenticity of who you are. If you're phony, I think that we can all agree, that it's an apparent contradiction to this entire concept. However, there are some folks that don't even realize that they are inauthentic, and sometimes it takes a major epiphany in order for them to become self aware. Staying true to oneself and authentic, to me, in terms of inner loyalty, means doing what feels natural to me, never compromising on my self worth or allowing someone else to dictate my value or worth, always believing in myself and God-given talents (contrary to what you may believe, we all have something that we are fabulous at doing), and never settling for less than what I deserve. When you live your life remaining true to your core values, you can dispel the notion or the negative forces that arise to try to "chip away" at your ability to be true to yourself.

Self Sabotage

Self Sabotage is interesting because, it sometimes shows up as "tricks of negativity" such as, self-deprecating in most cases. People with low self-esteem will use self-deprecating comments to make others feel comfortable around them; at the expense of their own feelings. It's not fair or cool to do this because, if you do employ these comments; what happens when you begin to believe what you say? And, therein lies the issue. Answer: you begin to believe that you're a failure, you believe that you cannot get that job because you're convinced that you're not good enough, or he or she would never date me because, I don't look like "so and so"! Self Sabotaging directly affects your ability to remain true to yourself. Moreover, I'm a sole believer in the Laws of Attraction, and we are all energy. Therefore, the energy that we put out into the atmosphere is the same type of energy that we attract. I also believe, a weak or idle mind is more exposed or vulnerable to negativity. My Mom used to always say, "an idle mind is the devil's playground." The lesson here is to keep your mind actively operating at a higher vibration. So, if you notice that there is a lot of negativity around you, check your energy, are you putting out negative energy signals by engaging in self-sabotage? If so, it's time to change your mentality!

Support From Others

Support From Others is important, but when it comes to your inner loyalty, I suggest that it is only necessary to a point. I say this because, yes, we need the support of our tribe. It pushes us to stay motivated and to keep going. This is in turn, has a positive affect on "staying true to oneself" and counteracts "self sabotage" as previously discussed. However, one must also be protective of your inner loyalty, when exposing it to support from others because, sometimes your friend's inner loyalty may not be complimentary to yours. Some people may be self-sabotaging in their own lives, and this carries over into how they view the world around them. Therefore, it can be detrimental to maintaining your inner loyalty. You have to know when to cut the support of others from your life. It is totally okay to do so. When the support of others affect your ability to remain true to yourself, and their views cause you to self sabotage, just know that it is time to cut the relationship, or at least, withdraw.

As you can see, Staying True to Oneself, Self Sabotage, and Support From Others all feed into your Inner Loyalty. I hope that today's post has allowed you to think more about your own Inner Loyalty. May you have a beautiful and a wonderful #MotivationMonday!

Peace, Blessings and Happy #MondayMotivation!

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